Be proud of who you are. Listen to screamo (if you like it) or metal. It doesn't matter! Dress like you, not like your parents. And embrace your style!
Live Every Day Like It Was Your Last!
-Neon Natalie<33x
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6/27/11
Love Yourself
Be proud of who you are. Listen to screamo (if you like it) or metal. It doesn't matter! Dress like you, not like your parents. And embrace your style!
Live Every Day Like It Was Your Last!
-Neon Natalie<33x
Having Fun
It's good every once in a while to hang with your friends! Today, I'm dedicating it to my beloved bestie, Raye. :) I also wanna warn you that from now on, i'll be writing my blogg from my phone. So please, if there are any spelling or gramar errors, it's cozza my phone. So anyway, PICTURES! They'll be up on my tumblr soon!
my tumblr is: xXNeonNatalieXx.tumblr.com
Be Watching for my smexxy pictures with the star of HeyItsLight (aka the author of Surprises Happen)
Check out Raye's blogg at: surpriseshappen.blogspot.com
and be sure to bring your ShamWoohoo!
lawlzz
okay, well, that's all for this entry!
Stay True to Yourself,
-Neon Natalie<33x
my tumblr is: xXNeonNatalieXx.tumblr.com
Be Watching for my smexxy pictures with the star of HeyItsLight (aka the author of Surprises Happen)
Check out Raye's blogg at: surpriseshappen.blogspot.com
and be sure to bring your ShamWoohoo!
lawlzz
okay, well, that's all for this entry!
Stay True to Yourself,
-Neon Natalie<33x
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6/26/11
You Are Beautiful
Alright guys, it's Neon.. this post is specifically for Raye Nicole.. No matter what you think when youu look in the mirror, you are beautiful. No matter what any betch out there says, you ARE beautiful.
You aren't worthles. You aren't uglyy. You're amazing. Dont ever forget that!
I know this is really short, but i just had to make this point clear. Raye Nicole, you are beautiful!
Believe in Yourself
-Neon Natalie<33x
You aren't worthles. You aren't uglyy. You're amazing. Dont ever forget that!
I know this is really short, but i just had to make this point clear. Raye Nicole, you are beautiful!
Believe in Yourself
-Neon Natalie<33x
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I Support
Alright, guys, so this is kinda important to me.... I don't like that people have been mean to me about this before.... So I'm gonna straight up tell you.
I support LGBT.
I did Day of Silence this year. It was really fun, actually. I even voulenteered in my little sister's third grade class. The kids were so surprised that I wouldn't talk to them, cause I usually do. They thought I was trying to be mean, but I just sat quietly and helped the teacher without talking to anyone but the teacher when I needed to. It was really fun!
Anyway, people have bugged me about it... And it isn't cool. I really support LGBT. I think it's alright to be gay or bi. I think it's fine to be a lesbian or be trans. So what?
Don't treat someone differently because they're different. Being gay doesn't mean you aren't normal. And it sure doesn't mean you're gonna burn in Hell. Alright? Let's get this over with. If God hated gays so much, why would He make them gay? He wouldn't! He loves His children equally. In case you guys didn't know this, a lot of people in Jesus's time were gay....
Yeah, so please leave me and my LGBT friends alone about burning in Hell for either being LGBT or supporting. Thanks. That is all.
I Support, Do you?
-Neon Natalie <33x
I support LGBT.
I did Day of Silence this year. It was really fun, actually. I even voulenteered in my little sister's third grade class. The kids were so surprised that I wouldn't talk to them, cause I usually do. They thought I was trying to be mean, but I just sat quietly and helped the teacher without talking to anyone but the teacher when I needed to. It was really fun!
Anyway, people have bugged me about it... And it isn't cool. I really support LGBT. I think it's alright to be gay or bi. I think it's fine to be a lesbian or be trans. So what?
Don't treat someone differently because they're different. Being gay doesn't mean you aren't normal. And it sure doesn't mean you're gonna burn in Hell. Alright? Let's get this over with. If God hated gays so much, why would He make them gay? He wouldn't! He loves His children equally. In case you guys didn't know this, a lot of people in Jesus's time were gay....
Yeah, so please leave me and my LGBT friends alone about burning in Hell for either being LGBT or supporting. Thanks. That is all.
I Support, Do you?
-Neon Natalie <33x
Music Is My Life
Hey, guys. It's Neon. Yesterday's post (this one), is about something serious, as are most of my posts. This was supposed to be posted yesterday, but I had to babysit. So I'm posting it today.
-Neon Natalie
Ok, so as the title says, music is my life. I'm not kidding when I say this. A lot of things in my life have to do with music. I'm a singer/songwriter, and I've been singing since I was really little. I started singing karaoke when I was about 6 or 7. Well, I really liked it. And after some years of vocal development, I have grown to like performing in front of people that aren't family. I love performing for my family still, but there's a certain rush for performing in front of total strangers, especially when it's a song you've been working on for so long.
Now, I still have problems with singing. I have partial hearing loss, so that can make hitting notes I can't hear that well really hard. When I perform, the music needs to be really loud in my ears so I can hear my notes. It's not easy to sing when hearing is hard. Sometimes, it's a major setback.
Also, since I'm only 12, my voice is changing. This is not a fun time for singing. My voice cracks and all that jazz ALL the time. It's sorta stupid, but I gotta push through it. Finish my song and get off stage. That's it.
I play keyboard and piano as well. I'm learning guitar, but that's a process that could take forever. No kidding. I'm really bad at the guitar, but I play piano okay. I'm not going to say I'm some sort of prodigee, because I'm really not. I'm not even a really good player, much less a prodigee.
Songwriting. Don't ask me how I do it. It's a really long process and it's been forever since I wrote a song. The last song I wrote was called Home. It was a song about how, as a military kid, I don't know where my home is. I wrote it when we were about to move again. We were moving from Las Vegas to New Mexico. I was really scared. So I sat down and sang the first thing that came to mind, which was:
Where is my home? The place where I'll stay...
And I just expanded off of that.
Even besides my music and how it plays in my life, my friends are all musically talented. Most of my friends are singer/songwriters. I do have some friends who play instruments. Being around music pretty much all the time really pushes me to be like my favorite artists some day. I usually sit and wish I could sing like Carrie Underwood or something, but I know if I keep working at my singing and songwriting, I could get really good. Maybe good enough to be a professional singer.
That's pretty much all I have to say for this post. Oh, and just in case people wonder what kind of music I listen to, here are some bands/artists that I like:
Black Veil Brides
Carrie Underwood
Forever the Sickest Kids
Miley Cyrus
Katy Perry
Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
Britany Spears
Lady Gaga (I'm a little monster)
Nicki Minaj
Rihanna
Taylor Swift
Paramore
Miranda Lambert
Jennette McCurdy
Those are just a few. I'm really trying to get listening to more bands like:
As I Lay Dying
Bring Me the Horizon
The Devil Wears Prada
Asking Alexandria
Misfits
Those are just a few bands I'm going to look at. Check em out if you'd like. Feel free to comment and I'll totally reply, eventually.
Stay True To You
--Neon Natalie <33x
-Neon Natalie
Ok, so as the title says, music is my life. I'm not kidding when I say this. A lot of things in my life have to do with music. I'm a singer/songwriter, and I've been singing since I was really little. I started singing karaoke when I was about 6 or 7. Well, I really liked it. And after some years of vocal development, I have grown to like performing in front of people that aren't family. I love performing for my family still, but there's a certain rush for performing in front of total strangers, especially when it's a song you've been working on for so long.
Now, I still have problems with singing. I have partial hearing loss, so that can make hitting notes I can't hear that well really hard. When I perform, the music needs to be really loud in my ears so I can hear my notes. It's not easy to sing when hearing is hard. Sometimes, it's a major setback.
Also, since I'm only 12, my voice is changing. This is not a fun time for singing. My voice cracks and all that jazz ALL the time. It's sorta stupid, but I gotta push through it. Finish my song and get off stage. That's it.
I play keyboard and piano as well. I'm learning guitar, but that's a process that could take forever. No kidding. I'm really bad at the guitar, but I play piano okay. I'm not going to say I'm some sort of prodigee, because I'm really not. I'm not even a really good player, much less a prodigee.
Songwriting. Don't ask me how I do it. It's a really long process and it's been forever since I wrote a song. The last song I wrote was called Home. It was a song about how, as a military kid, I don't know where my home is. I wrote it when we were about to move again. We were moving from Las Vegas to New Mexico. I was really scared. So I sat down and sang the first thing that came to mind, which was:
Where is my home? The place where I'll stay...
And I just expanded off of that.
Even besides my music and how it plays in my life, my friends are all musically talented. Most of my friends are singer/songwriters. I do have some friends who play instruments. Being around music pretty much all the time really pushes me to be like my favorite artists some day. I usually sit and wish I could sing like Carrie Underwood or something, but I know if I keep working at my singing and songwriting, I could get really good. Maybe good enough to be a professional singer.
That's pretty much all I have to say for this post. Oh, and just in case people wonder what kind of music I listen to, here are some bands/artists that I like:
Black Veil Brides
Carrie Underwood
Forever the Sickest Kids
Miley Cyrus
Katy Perry
Israel Kamakawiwo'ole
Britany Spears
Lady Gaga (I'm a little monster)
Nicki Minaj
Rihanna
Taylor Swift
Paramore
Miranda Lambert
Jennette McCurdy
Those are just a few. I'm really trying to get listening to more bands like:
As I Lay Dying
Bring Me the Horizon
The Devil Wears Prada
Asking Alexandria
Misfits
Those are just a few bands I'm going to look at. Check em out if you'd like. Feel free to comment and I'll totally reply, eventually.
Stay True To You
--Neon Natalie <33x
Style Haters
Hey, it's me, obviously....Ooh..Donuts...
Anyway, since yesterday I didn't write a blog post, I'll write two today, just to be fair.
NOW STOP READING SO I CAN GET MY HEADPHONES FOR MY IPOD!!
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Alright, now that I have my iPod headphones and I are listening to Perfect Weapon by Black Veil Brides, I am so ready to write this blog. :)
So, as the title says, today's blog post is about Style Haters. We all know who I'm talking about. They're the ones that will hate on you because of the following:
*Hairstlyes
*Clothes
*Music
*Hair color
*Shoes
*Randomness
*etc.
For example, just imagine this:
So you're best friends with a Style Hater, but you don't know that. You're just a normal kinda girl. You don't dress particular to one style, you just dress in anything that's in your room at the time of getting dressed. And as you go into middle school, things start to change. You like to wear more bright colors and you enjoy doing your hair with the "scene hair."
You notice that you're fitting in more with the "scene kids" than you are with other "groups."
So what you decide to do is pick a nice long school break to "go scene."
Over the summer, you've transformed quite a bit. You haven't seen your school friends at all! You got choppy layers in your hair and wear colored extensions. You tease your hair, wear eyeliner, and usually wear random t-shirts and cute skinnies. You finally see your school friends and...well, they're not exactly happy. Well, one of them isn't happy.
They think you look absolutely insane. "You're not like the old you," they say.
"What if being the 'old me' wasn't what I wanted?" you reply.
"I don't like your new 'style.'" they say.
"And? Do you think that if I cared about anyone else's opinion I would've done this?" you say.
"Well, I'm not gonna be your friend if you keep dressing 'scene.'" they reply.
"Fine." you say, walking away confidently.
So you lost a "friend" because you became "scene." If they were actually your friend, they probably would've stuck by you through your new style.The thing is, they are just hating your new style, not you. They might just altogether think the "scene" is stupid, or will get you into drugs or something. That's the really stupid part. They don't have a problem with you, it's your style.
So don't worry. You don't wanna be friends with someone whose gonna judge you every day because you're being you. That's the point of life. Being you. So don't let someone judge you and try to be your "friend," because it won't work. You aren't gonna stand for the judgement.
Just listen to what the inner you says. If you're "scene," then by all means, be "scene." It's your choice, really. Just watch out for the Parental Units. They might try to change your mind about changing your style. Don't get in trouble by going behind their backs and dying your hair hot pink. Let them try to change you. Don't change.
Stay Beautiful && Good Luck!
--Neon Natalie <33x
Anyway, since yesterday I didn't write a blog post, I'll write two today, just to be fair.
NOW STOP READING SO I CAN GET MY HEADPHONES FOR MY IPOD!!
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Alright, now that I have my iPod headphones and I are listening to Perfect Weapon by Black Veil Brides, I am so ready to write this blog. :)
So, as the title says, today's blog post is about Style Haters. We all know who I'm talking about. They're the ones that will hate on you because of the following:
*Hairstlyes
*Clothes
*Music
*Hair color
*Shoes
*Randomness
*etc.
For example, just imagine this:
So you're best friends with a Style Hater, but you don't know that. You're just a normal kinda girl. You don't dress particular to one style, you just dress in anything that's in your room at the time of getting dressed. And as you go into middle school, things start to change. You like to wear more bright colors and you enjoy doing your hair with the "scene hair."
You notice that you're fitting in more with the "scene kids" than you are with other "groups."
So what you decide to do is pick a nice long school break to "go scene."
Over the summer, you've transformed quite a bit. You haven't seen your school friends at all! You got choppy layers in your hair and wear colored extensions. You tease your hair, wear eyeliner, and usually wear random t-shirts and cute skinnies. You finally see your school friends and...well, they're not exactly happy. Well, one of them isn't happy.
They think you look absolutely insane. "You're not like the old you," they say.
"What if being the 'old me' wasn't what I wanted?" you reply.
"I don't like your new 'style.'" they say.
"And? Do you think that if I cared about anyone else's opinion I would've done this?" you say.
"Well, I'm not gonna be your friend if you keep dressing 'scene.'" they reply.
"Fine." you say, walking away confidently.
So you lost a "friend" because you became "scene." If they were actually your friend, they probably would've stuck by you through your new style.The thing is, they are just hating your new style, not you. They might just altogether think the "scene" is stupid, or will get you into drugs or something. That's the really stupid part. They don't have a problem with you, it's your style.
So don't worry. You don't wanna be friends with someone whose gonna judge you every day because you're being you. That's the point of life. Being you. So don't let someone judge you and try to be your "friend," because it won't work. You aren't gonna stand for the judgement.
Just listen to what the inner you says. If you're "scene," then by all means, be "scene." It's your choice, really. Just watch out for the Parental Units. They might try to change your mind about changing your style. Don't get in trouble by going behind their backs and dying your hair hot pink. Let them try to change you. Don't change.
Stay Beautiful && Good Luck!
--Neon Natalie <33x
6/24/11
It's Unfair
Alright, so you're in that weird part of life where you don't know where you fit in. Finally, you figure out that the people you're most like are the scene kids. You slowly ease yourself into the style in the hopes you won't be called a poser. You fit in perfectly. For once, you have friends who are just like you.
Your parents told you before that you just had to find the place where you fit in. Finally you have. But something's wrong.
Your mom tells you to get ready one morning, so you run into the bathroom and tease your hair, just like you like it. And when you walk out, your mom totally disapproves and says, "You look stupid. You aren't going out like that."
What do you do? You obey your mom. You don't want to get in trouble, now, do you? You're really mad. But you untease your hair and walk back out with the flattest hair possible.
You go out with your mom to wherever you need to go. When you get home, your mom asks you if you want to go hang out with your scene friends. You say no. She asks you why and you tell her that she doesn't approve of how you dress around them, your real friends, and she doesn't approve of how you do your hair, either. She says, "Fine, today do it, but that's the last time. You won't ever leave my house looking that stupid ever again."
Now you're really mad. You tell her you aren't going and walk off. You reach your room, and by now, you're crying. You can't disobey her. She's your mom. But you know where you fit in. If she doesn't support you, you still want to be with your friends and still fit in, right? So what do you do?
I don't know. I'm asking my readers to tell me. What do you do when your mom/dad disapproves of the way you dress/talk/act/etc.? All of this actually happened to me today. I'm very very mad. If I can't be me then who am I supposed to be? My mother? For right now, I'm going easy on the teasing && the makeup && all that. Hopefully, she'll start to understand scene culture, but until then, I don't think I can continue to be Neon Natalie on this blog. And I'm sorry for disappointing my readers if I can't write more.
Thanks for the support
-Neon Natalie <33x
Your parents told you before that you just had to find the place where you fit in. Finally you have. But something's wrong.
Your mom tells you to get ready one morning, so you run into the bathroom and tease your hair, just like you like it. And when you walk out, your mom totally disapproves and says, "You look stupid. You aren't going out like that."
What do you do? You obey your mom. You don't want to get in trouble, now, do you? You're really mad. But you untease your hair and walk back out with the flattest hair possible.
You go out with your mom to wherever you need to go. When you get home, your mom asks you if you want to go hang out with your scene friends. You say no. She asks you why and you tell her that she doesn't approve of how you dress around them, your real friends, and she doesn't approve of how you do your hair, either. She says, "Fine, today do it, but that's the last time. You won't ever leave my house looking that stupid ever again."
Now you're really mad. You tell her you aren't going and walk off. You reach your room, and by now, you're crying. You can't disobey her. She's your mom. But you know where you fit in. If she doesn't support you, you still want to be with your friends and still fit in, right? So what do you do?
I don't know. I'm asking my readers to tell me. What do you do when your mom/dad disapproves of the way you dress/talk/act/etc.? All of this actually happened to me today. I'm very very mad. If I can't be me then who am I supposed to be? My mother? For right now, I'm going easy on the teasing && the makeup && all that. Hopefully, she'll start to understand scene culture, but until then, I don't think I can continue to be Neon Natalie on this blog. And I'm sorry for disappointing my readers if I can't write more.
Thanks for the support
-Neon Natalie <33x
The Things That Make Me Mad
Hi guys!! So I thought it'd be interesting to make a list of the things that make me mad. Why? Well, I'm mad right now! So I'm in the perfect mood for this!
okay, here we go!
1. When people make fun of my style.
2. When my mom disapproves of my style.
3. When my friends disapprove of my style.
4. When I die in Runescape.
5. When my kitty forgets she has a litter box and decides to use the floor as a toilet.
6. When I have to mop up cat pee.
7. When I'm not allowed to do my hair how I want it.
8. When I can't think of a topic for my blog posts.
9. When the Runescape server is slow.
10. When YouTube is running slow.
11. When I can't find AA batteries for my dorky camera.
12. When my best friend ever, J, is busy.
13. When people try to fight with me.
14. When people call me a poser.
15. When people can't support me through my own choices.
16. When I have to give up on something because my mom doesn't support me enough to help me.
17. When I think about how I had to quit on vegetarianism because of my mom.
18. Having to eat meat.
19. Having to dress how my mom wants me to, not how I want to.
20. When people LIE.
Those are 20 things that make me extremely mad. And in case you're wondering what I'm talking about in number 16, I'll explain it below.
I was gonna go vegetarian and my mom kept taking the fam out to eat in places that serve meat ONLY. Like Texas Roadhouse. Like, there isn't a thing on that menu that doesn't include MEAT!!! I told her I was for real about being a vegetarian and she totally laughed in my face. Literally.
Anyway....
I might post some more stuff later today, until my mom comes home...because I don't have my own computer in my room that I can use to write my blog on... so anyway, Thanks for reading....
-Neon Natalie <33x
okay, here we go!
1. When people make fun of my style.
2. When my mom disapproves of my style.
3. When my friends disapprove of my style.
4. When I die in Runescape.
5. When my kitty forgets she has a litter box and decides to use the floor as a toilet.
6. When I have to mop up cat pee.
7. When I'm not allowed to do my hair how I want it.
8. When I can't think of a topic for my blog posts.
9. When the Runescape server is slow.
10. When YouTube is running slow.
11. When I can't find AA batteries for my dorky camera.
12. When my best friend ever, J, is busy.
13. When people try to fight with me.
14. When people call me a poser.
15. When people can't support me through my own choices.
16. When I have to give up on something because my mom doesn't support me enough to help me.
17. When I think about how I had to quit on vegetarianism because of my mom.
18. Having to eat meat.
19. Having to dress how my mom wants me to, not how I want to.
20. When people LIE.
Those are 20 things that make me extremely mad. And in case you're wondering what I'm talking about in number 16, I'll explain it below.
I was gonna go vegetarian and my mom kept taking the fam out to eat in places that serve meat ONLY. Like Texas Roadhouse. Like, there isn't a thing on that menu that doesn't include MEAT!!! I told her I was for real about being a vegetarian and she totally laughed in my face. Literally.
Anyway....
I might post some more stuff later today, until my mom comes home...because I don't have my own computer in my room that I can use to write my blog on... so anyway, Thanks for reading....
-Neon Natalie <33x
Getting Stalked
Alright, so you might be wondering why I'm blogging about getting stalked. Well, yesterday, the reason I didn't write my usual daily blog post was because I was being stalked, and so was a friend of mine. Let me explain these situations to you by making you IMAGINE!!!
Imagine This (my turn being stalked):
You walk into the bathroom to touch up your makeup & hair, when suddenly, a short blonde child with bright blue eyes appears behind you. When you turn around, you just see her there. She tilts her head and does one of those scary movie smiles. "Hi.." she whispers.
Totally freaked out, you turn back to the mirror and mumble, "Hi."
Suddenly, you hear giggling, but it's not just one person giggling, it's three. You turn around to find three little ones standing behind you, staring. "Here, use the sink." you say, moving aside. You suddenly dial someone's number you know so you can hopefully get help.
They ask who you're talking to, and you say it's your friend. They assume it's your boyfriend and continue asking strange questions that you can't answer. Finally, you give in and say, "If I let you say hi to my friend, will you three leave????"
They agree and each scream HI into your phone. They walk out. You continue fixing your hair, when you hear a muffled giggling followed by three loud bangs. You know it's coming from the door to the bathroom. You're starting to freak out, wondering how you're gonna escape because the little ones are standing right outside the door.
Finally, the door slowly opens. You're really scared now. It turns out to be a friend who noticed you'd been gone for over 15 minutes. She tells the little girls that she's gonna tell their teacher and they leave. You finish fixing your hair, and when you leave, you notice the three little girls pressed up against a window across the hall.
THAT HAPPENED TO ME!!!
Imagine this (it happened to a friend):
You log onto Runescape and you're trying to accomplish your tasks when you notice that a girl avatar (coz yours is a guy) is following you everywhere you go. Finally, you corner her. You have the following conversation with her:
You:Hey
Her: Hi
You: Why are u stalking me?
Her: Im lookin for a bf
You: Oh
*she starts walking away*
you: where u goin
Her: u dont like me
Her: Do u?
You:.....
WOW... a creeper looking for a boyfriend on runescape!!!
WATCH OUT FOR STALKERS, KIDS!!!
Imagine This (my turn being stalked):
You walk into the bathroom to touch up your makeup & hair, when suddenly, a short blonde child with bright blue eyes appears behind you. When you turn around, you just see her there. She tilts her head and does one of those scary movie smiles. "Hi.." she whispers.
Totally freaked out, you turn back to the mirror and mumble, "Hi."
Suddenly, you hear giggling, but it's not just one person giggling, it's three. You turn around to find three little ones standing behind you, staring. "Here, use the sink." you say, moving aside. You suddenly dial someone's number you know so you can hopefully get help.
They ask who you're talking to, and you say it's your friend. They assume it's your boyfriend and continue asking strange questions that you can't answer. Finally, you give in and say, "If I let you say hi to my friend, will you three leave????"
They agree and each scream HI into your phone. They walk out. You continue fixing your hair, when you hear a muffled giggling followed by three loud bangs. You know it's coming from the door to the bathroom. You're starting to freak out, wondering how you're gonna escape because the little ones are standing right outside the door.
Finally, the door slowly opens. You're really scared now. It turns out to be a friend who noticed you'd been gone for over 15 minutes. She tells the little girls that she's gonna tell their teacher and they leave. You finish fixing your hair, and when you leave, you notice the three little girls pressed up against a window across the hall.
THAT HAPPENED TO ME!!!
Imagine this (it happened to a friend):
You log onto Runescape and you're trying to accomplish your tasks when you notice that a girl avatar (coz yours is a guy) is following you everywhere you go. Finally, you corner her. You have the following conversation with her:
You:Hey
Her: Hi
You: Why are u stalking me?
Her: Im lookin for a bf
You: Oh
*she starts walking away*
you: where u goin
Her: u dont like me
Her: Do u?
You:.....
WOW... a creeper looking for a boyfriend on runescape!!!
WATCH OUT FOR STALKERS, KIDS!!!
6/22/11
Reconnecting With Old Friends
Imagine this:
You're sitting around in a place where you usually hang out with your new friends. You're talking, laughing, and playing around. Suddenly, you look up and see someone you think you know. You walk over to get a better look. You do know them! They were once your closest friend. Either that, or you were pretty good friends who drifted.
Well now that you know who it is, you've just gotta go say hi! You casually walk over and try not to be a creepy stalker person. You say, "Hi (insert name)! How are you? You remember me, right?"
And of course, they remember you. They aren't acting how they used to, but that's expected because nobody stays the same for that long. They don't look that much different, but they're hanging out with different people. You know the ones, too. They're the people that'll target their "friend's" friends and make them feel bad.
Now, you're not so sure you want to be their friend again. But this friend sounds like they're super excited to reconnect with you. How are you supposed to approach this situation without being a total biznitch?
The answer:
You've gotta remember that people have feelings. You don't wanna be mean to them, because they could use their friends to gang up on you. You don't want that, trust me. Don't go looking for a fight with them to make them find you less appealing as a friend, either. That'll ruin the way you're seen by a lot of people, even if they don't know you. First impressions always stick. If your old friend is hanging out with people you don't know, use this as an opportunity to meet new people.
When you start hanging out with an old friend again, it may be a little awkward if a touchy subject is brought up. Just keep the conversation in that "friendly chit chat" mood. You know what I'm talking about, right? If you don't, here's an example (RANDOM NAME FOR FRIEND USED):
You: Hey Sorya!
Sorya: Hi!
You: How have you been?
Sorya: Pretty good, and you?
You: Peachy!
Keeping the conversation friendly like this will help you avoid awkward moments when a bad subject comes up, because you'll mainly focus on the happy stuff. Think back to the happy things you did with this friend and try to talk about those.
Finally, you should give reconnecting a try. It won't hurt! And if it still doesnt work, then you need to break it off.
Hope I helped. Comment me questions to answer.
--Neon Natalie <333x
You're sitting around in a place where you usually hang out with your new friends. You're talking, laughing, and playing around. Suddenly, you look up and see someone you think you know. You walk over to get a better look. You do know them! They were once your closest friend. Either that, or you were pretty good friends who drifted.
Well now that you know who it is, you've just gotta go say hi! You casually walk over and try not to be a creepy stalker person. You say, "Hi (insert name)! How are you? You remember me, right?"
And of course, they remember you. They aren't acting how they used to, but that's expected because nobody stays the same for that long. They don't look that much different, but they're hanging out with different people. You know the ones, too. They're the people that'll target their "friend's" friends and make them feel bad.
Now, you're not so sure you want to be their friend again. But this friend sounds like they're super excited to reconnect with you. How are you supposed to approach this situation without being a total biznitch?
The answer:
You've gotta remember that people have feelings. You don't wanna be mean to them, because they could use their friends to gang up on you. You don't want that, trust me. Don't go looking for a fight with them to make them find you less appealing as a friend, either. That'll ruin the way you're seen by a lot of people, even if they don't know you. First impressions always stick. If your old friend is hanging out with people you don't know, use this as an opportunity to meet new people.
When you start hanging out with an old friend again, it may be a little awkward if a touchy subject is brought up. Just keep the conversation in that "friendly chit chat" mood. You know what I'm talking about, right? If you don't, here's an example (RANDOM NAME FOR FRIEND USED):
You: Hey Sorya!
Sorya: Hi!
You: How have you been?
Sorya: Pretty good, and you?
You: Peachy!
Keeping the conversation friendly like this will help you avoid awkward moments when a bad subject comes up, because you'll mainly focus on the happy stuff. Think back to the happy things you did with this friend and try to talk about those.
Finally, you should give reconnecting a try. It won't hurt! And if it still doesnt work, then you need to break it off.
Hope I helped. Comment me questions to answer.
--Neon Natalie <333x
6/21/11
Who Are Your Real Friends?
During the time of your life when you're trying to find out where you fit in, whether that be with the scenes, goths, preps, jocks, etc., you might lose a lot of friends. While this can be sad, it's bound to happen eventually.
Let's face it, people change. Whether you change, or your friend changes, it's gonna happen. You might not even like the end result, but it will happen. When a friend changes, it's best to support her/him in their decision. But if that just isn't possible, or they've changed in ways that make them mean, you may just wanna break it off. That's right. Sit them down and tell it to them straight. Say politely, "I'm sorry, but you're acting like a total butt fash now, and I can't be around someone like that. I think we should just not be friends for now."
Now, obviously, they're not gonna like this, especially if you've been besties for quite a while. Just be strong. This will be hard, if you see them as your friend still. But if they're being meanies, this should be somewhat easier. It won't be super easy though. It'll still be hard when you go home and see that charm bracelet that you and your bestie made together on your trip to Sin City. But you'll make it through.
If you and a friend have recently fought, you know that some friendships make it through everything, while others crack under the pressure. It just depends on how close you and this friend really are. If you guys are true BFFs, you'll survive everything, from fights to moves. Remember that even if you guys take a friendship break, you can still go back to being friends.
A friendship break basically means that you guys had a disagreement and need to stay away from each other till you guys calm down. This could take a while. You and your friend could expect even up to a year for a cool down. Don't just jump back into the friendship and expect it to be exactly how it was before. It doesn't work like that. You need to ease back into the friendship just like you ease into a new one with a complete stranger.
If you and a friend survive all this, all the ups and downs, the guys, the broken hearts, the fights, the late night phone calls, etc, you are truly friends. Most important of all the true friend traits, they will always be there for you. They will always support you, they will always be there for you, and they will always be there to help when you're in need. Treating your friend like a friend is important. Don't treat them like some toy that you can get bored with easily. Friends have feelings.
Please don't give up on something you believe in to fit in. And if you feel like you're being messed with because of your views on something, talk to your real bestie. They can help.
If you have any questions for me to answer in a blog post, contact me in the comments.
love you guys :)
--Neon Natalie <333
Let's face it, people change. Whether you change, or your friend changes, it's gonna happen. You might not even like the end result, but it will happen. When a friend changes, it's best to support her/him in their decision. But if that just isn't possible, or they've changed in ways that make them mean, you may just wanna break it off. That's right. Sit them down and tell it to them straight. Say politely, "I'm sorry, but you're acting like a total butt fash now, and I can't be around someone like that. I think we should just not be friends for now."
Now, obviously, they're not gonna like this, especially if you've been besties for quite a while. Just be strong. This will be hard, if you see them as your friend still. But if they're being meanies, this should be somewhat easier. It won't be super easy though. It'll still be hard when you go home and see that charm bracelet that you and your bestie made together on your trip to Sin City. But you'll make it through.
If you and a friend have recently fought, you know that some friendships make it through everything, while others crack under the pressure. It just depends on how close you and this friend really are. If you guys are true BFFs, you'll survive everything, from fights to moves. Remember that even if you guys take a friendship break, you can still go back to being friends.
A friendship break basically means that you guys had a disagreement and need to stay away from each other till you guys calm down. This could take a while. You and your friend could expect even up to a year for a cool down. Don't just jump back into the friendship and expect it to be exactly how it was before. It doesn't work like that. You need to ease back into the friendship just like you ease into a new one with a complete stranger.
If you and a friend survive all this, all the ups and downs, the guys, the broken hearts, the fights, the late night phone calls, etc, you are truly friends. Most important of all the true friend traits, they will always be there for you. They will always support you, they will always be there for you, and they will always be there to help when you're in need. Treating your friend like a friend is important. Don't treat them like some toy that you can get bored with easily. Friends have feelings.
Please don't give up on something you believe in to fit in. And if you feel like you're being messed with because of your views on something, talk to your real bestie. They can help.
If you have any questions for me to answer in a blog post, contact me in the comments.
love you guys :)
--Neon Natalie <333
Asking For Forgiveness
Imagine this:
You just told two friends a secret that they promised to keep and wouldnt be mad about or anything. One friend is slightly shocked, which you can expect because your secret was a bit intense. The other friend totally freaks out and starts harassing you, constantly texting you and putting you down because of the secret. You get up and leave. Your first friend apologizes, as do you. Over two months later, the second "friend" still hasn't apologized.
A few nights ago, you get a text from this "friend" asking you to forgive her. You nicely tell her that you don't want to talk at the moment.
Last night, you got a text from your real friend who apologized. She said she's sad that she can't hang out with her friends all together because of the fight between you and the "friend" from before. She asks you to at least listen to the "friend," because she has something important to say. She doesn't say that you have to forgive the "friend," but that "friend" is bound to ask you for forgiveness.
One thing I've learned is that if people are mean to you once and it takes them over two months to apologize, they usually don't mean it and will probably turn around and be mean again. Now, I'm not saying that this "friend," who I'll call T, is lying. I'm saying that I haven't known T for that long. I don't know her as well as my first friend, R, does. R thinks that T was just being her usual straightforward self and speaking her mind.
If T asks for my forgiveness, I can't guarantee that I'll say, "Yes, T, I forgive you." What I can guarantee is that I'm not going to stand for being harassed and yelled at for living my life the way I want to.
If T would've stepped up earlier and apologized, I would have considered forgiving her for being mean. I can't honestly say that what's mean for you is mean for me, but when someone knows that they're hurting your feelings, specifically because you told them, and they don't stop, you don't stand for it. If you believe in something and you're being harassed because of it, don't stand for it.
Always remember, when someone asks for forgiveness, watch out. And make sure you know who your real friends are, because they'll always have your back, no matter how many times you fight.
Thanks for reading this suckish blog. I hope that you enjoyed my "dramatic" story...
You just told two friends a secret that they promised to keep and wouldnt be mad about or anything. One friend is slightly shocked, which you can expect because your secret was a bit intense. The other friend totally freaks out and starts harassing you, constantly texting you and putting you down because of the secret. You get up and leave. Your first friend apologizes, as do you. Over two months later, the second "friend" still hasn't apologized.
A few nights ago, you get a text from this "friend" asking you to forgive her. You nicely tell her that you don't want to talk at the moment.
Last night, you got a text from your real friend who apologized. She said she's sad that she can't hang out with her friends all together because of the fight between you and the "friend" from before. She asks you to at least listen to the "friend," because she has something important to say. She doesn't say that you have to forgive the "friend," but that "friend" is bound to ask you for forgiveness.
One thing I've learned is that if people are mean to you once and it takes them over two months to apologize, they usually don't mean it and will probably turn around and be mean again. Now, I'm not saying that this "friend," who I'll call T, is lying. I'm saying that I haven't known T for that long. I don't know her as well as my first friend, R, does. R thinks that T was just being her usual straightforward self and speaking her mind.
If T asks for my forgiveness, I can't guarantee that I'll say, "Yes, T, I forgive you." What I can guarantee is that I'm not going to stand for being harassed and yelled at for living my life the way I want to.
If T would've stepped up earlier and apologized, I would have considered forgiving her for being mean. I can't honestly say that what's mean for you is mean for me, but when someone knows that they're hurting your feelings, specifically because you told them, and they don't stop, you don't stand for it. If you believe in something and you're being harassed because of it, don't stand for it.
Always remember, when someone asks for forgiveness, watch out. And make sure you know who your real friends are, because they'll always have your back, no matter how many times you fight.
Thanks for reading this suckish blog. I hope that you enjoyed my "dramatic" story...
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