Reconnecting With Old Friends

Imagine this:

You're sitting around in a place where you usually hang out with your new friends. You're talking, laughing, and playing around. Suddenly, you look up and see someone you think you know. You walk over to get a better look. You do know them! They were once your closest friend. Either that, or you were pretty good friends who drifted.

Well now that you know who it is, you've just gotta go say hi! You casually walk over and try not to be a creepy stalker person. You say, "Hi (insert name)! How are you? You remember me, right?"

And of course, they remember you. They aren't acting how they used to, but that's expected because nobody stays the same for that long. They don't look that much different, but they're hanging out with different people. You know the ones, too. They're the people that'll target their "friend's" friends and make them feel bad.

Now, you're not so sure you want to be their friend again. But this friend sounds like they're super excited to reconnect with you. How are you supposed to approach this situation without being a total biznitch?

The answer:

You've gotta remember that people have feelings. You don't wanna be mean to them, because they could use their friends to gang up on you. You don't want that, trust me. Don't go looking for a fight with them to make them find you less appealing as a friend, either. That'll ruin the way you're seen by a lot of people, even if they don't know you. First impressions always stick. If your old friend is hanging out with people you don't know, use this as an opportunity to meet new people.

When you start hanging out with an old friend again, it may be a little awkward if a touchy subject is brought up. Just keep the conversation in that "friendly chit chat" mood. You know what I'm talking about, right? If you don't, here's an example (RANDOM NAME FOR FRIEND USED):

You: Hey Sorya!

Sorya: Hi!

You: How have you been?

Sorya: Pretty good, and you?

You: Peachy!

Keeping the conversation friendly like this will help you avoid awkward moments when a bad subject comes up, because you'll mainly focus on the happy stuff. Think back to the happy things you did with this friend and try to talk about those.

Finally, you should give reconnecting a try. It won't hurt! And if it still doesnt work, then you need to break it off.

Hope I helped. Comment me questions to answer.

--Neon Natalie <333x