Imagine this:
You just told two friends a secret that they promised to keep and wouldnt be mad about or anything. One friend is slightly shocked, which you can expect because your secret was a bit intense. The other friend totally freaks out and starts harassing you, constantly texting you and putting you down because of the secret. You get up and leave. Your first friend apologizes, as do you. Over two months later, the second "friend" still hasn't apologized.
A few nights ago, you get a text from this "friend" asking you to forgive her. You nicely tell her that you don't want to talk at the moment.
Last night, you got a text from your real friend who apologized. She said she's sad that she can't hang out with her friends all together because of the fight between you and the "friend" from before. She asks you to at least listen to the "friend," because she has something important to say. She doesn't say that you have to forgive the "friend," but that "friend" is bound to ask you for forgiveness.
One thing I've learned is that if people are mean to you once and it takes them over two months to apologize, they usually don't mean it and will probably turn around and be mean again. Now, I'm not saying that this "friend," who I'll call T, is lying. I'm saying that I haven't known T for that long. I don't know her as well as my first friend, R, does. R thinks that T was just being her usual straightforward self and speaking her mind.
If T asks for my forgiveness, I can't guarantee that I'll say, "Yes, T, I forgive you." What I can guarantee is that I'm not going to stand for being harassed and yelled at for living my life the way I want to.
If T would've stepped up earlier and apologized, I would have considered forgiving her for being mean. I can't honestly say that what's mean for you is mean for me, but when someone knows that they're hurting your feelings, specifically because you told them, and they don't stop, you don't stand for it. If you believe in something and you're being harassed because of it, don't stand for it.
Always remember, when someone asks for forgiveness, watch out. And make sure you know who your real friends are, because they'll always have your back, no matter how many times you fight.
Thanks for reading this suckish blog. I hope that you enjoyed my "dramatic" story...
You just told two friends a secret that they promised to keep and wouldnt be mad about or anything. One friend is slightly shocked, which you can expect because your secret was a bit intense. The other friend totally freaks out and starts harassing you, constantly texting you and putting you down because of the secret. You get up and leave. Your first friend apologizes, as do you. Over two months later, the second "friend" still hasn't apologized.
A few nights ago, you get a text from this "friend" asking you to forgive her. You nicely tell her that you don't want to talk at the moment.
Last night, you got a text from your real friend who apologized. She said she's sad that she can't hang out with her friends all together because of the fight between you and the "friend" from before. She asks you to at least listen to the "friend," because she has something important to say. She doesn't say that you have to forgive the "friend," but that "friend" is bound to ask you for forgiveness.
One thing I've learned is that if people are mean to you once and it takes them over two months to apologize, they usually don't mean it and will probably turn around and be mean again. Now, I'm not saying that this "friend," who I'll call T, is lying. I'm saying that I haven't known T for that long. I don't know her as well as my first friend, R, does. R thinks that T was just being her usual straightforward self and speaking her mind.
If T asks for my forgiveness, I can't guarantee that I'll say, "Yes, T, I forgive you." What I can guarantee is that I'm not going to stand for being harassed and yelled at for living my life the way I want to.
If T would've stepped up earlier and apologized, I would have considered forgiving her for being mean. I can't honestly say that what's mean for you is mean for me, but when someone knows that they're hurting your feelings, specifically because you told them, and they don't stop, you don't stand for it. If you believe in something and you're being harassed because of it, don't stand for it.
Always remember, when someone asks for forgiveness, watch out. And make sure you know who your real friends are, because they'll always have your back, no matter how many times you fight.
Thanks for reading this suckish blog. I hope that you enjoyed my "dramatic" story...
Fun story. & may I say, very true. Remember what I told you.. it's your life. & I'm sorry I wasn't as supportive as I should've been, especially since having the honor of having the role of being your best friend. That was worded very oddly. Anyways... I'm here to support you from now on, & again-- I understand if you don't want to accept her apology.
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